Let’s try this exercise!
Think of the closest person to you, your boy/girlfriend, or your husband/wife.
How much do you know them?
Ok, you know them very much, that’s a typical answer.
Do you know what they feel when they see a certain scene in a movie?
Do you know how much does their family mean to them? Their jobs, their hobby?
Ok, they have told you that they love/ hate one of their family members, but do you really know what they both had to pass through? You might know if you and your partner talk 24/7 about everything; which is the ultimate! But who talks 24/7?! 10% of people? 20% of people? Let’s say 50%, which are you? Are you from the 50% that tell their partners every single thing that you have passed through in your life?
I don’t think so, because sometimes especially when there is something that has really bothered you in your past, you don’t actually talk about it. You don’t talk about it either because it hurts, or because you assume that your partner knows it, and in this case, he doesn’t. Therefore he won’t know your reactions to things related to it, and vice versa.
Take a second and think of your partner, think of how he reacts to certain things, do you know what’s behind his reactions?
People live together for more than 50 years, and yet they demure strangers. Some people might like that, I don’t know what you think, but if you don’t like it, start talking.
Talk 24/7 with your partner, talk about your childhood, your fears, your dreams, say everything you feel, don’t keep anything for yourself, let him actually be one with your thoughts… ask him about his childhood, his fears, his dreams, let him tell you everything he feels…
Who knows, you will discover a lot of things, some you like, and some you don’t. Go ahead and discover NOW.