I spent all this year telling you to be positive, to embrace yourself and to lead healthy habits and improve your year one week at a time.
What I am going to tell you now will blow your mind.
For week 29 of #Chantals2020WeeklyChallenge we will nag.
Yes you read it right!
I didn’t imagine seeing myself type these words, but for this week of #Chantals2020WeeklyChallenge we will nag!
If you are new to my website, my name is Chantal Souaid Mchantaf, I am a trainer and blogger (among many other things) who decided this year to ditch new year resolutions and make weekly challenges instead. Read more about me and about the challenge.
For those of you who know me, you know that nagging with me will be far different from any nagging you have ever done in your life.
So here’s how we will nag this week! We will nag in two different and two very important ways.
How to Nag This week, Part 1
- Find a trusted friend, family member, partner, or maybe a professional. Make sure to choose the right person.
- Give the other person a heads up before you lay a bomb at them, so make the proper introduction confirm that this person is ready for you.
- Choose the right time that suits you and the person who will listen to you
- Tell the other person if you only want to vent or if you also want help finding a solution.
- Give yourself an endpoint for the nagging (which is at the end of this week in our case).
- Know that the aim of your nagging for this specific period should be to lead you to some sort of a solution
Please don’t let the whole world know about your problems by posting them online, unless you really dying to do so.
Benefits of Nagging
- Helps release feelings of anger and frustration and thus helps stress release
- Helps you focus your thoughts in terms of a brain dump
- Helps you calm down now that you have said it all
- Helps you think of a plan for tackling the problem with a solution
Brain Integration for Kids
As I was reading Daniel Seagel’s The Whole Brain Child, I learned that kids needs us to repeat stories for them to help them integrate their upper brain with their lower brain and their left and right brain. I believe that we adults need integration as well sometimes. That’s why we need to talk about some things over and over again.
How to Nag This week, Part 2
- Join our Facebook Group to receive our daily journal prompts that will help you think out loud.
- Make a list of all your problems, yes we have all week for that!
- After writing your problems and talking about them in part 1, choose one of these problems to think about and try to find solutions to this week. Let’s take an example to help you understand part 2 better. Let’s say that the problem you decide to focus on this week is reducing your weight.
- Set the proper intention that you want to try to find a solution no matter how hard it is. Set the intentions that no matter how hard it is to lose weight, you want to lose weight and you are sure that you will be able to do it when you decide on the suitable solution.
- Next to your problem, write the feelings associated to this problem, this will help you reduce the stress associated and will help pinpoint the emotional frustrations that are usually a big part of our problems. For example, staying at the weight example, in this step, the emotional associations might be low self-confidence, sadness, anger when you look at the scale and/or the mirror.
- List the facts related to this problem and name the problem specifically, do not try to give yourself excuses or else you will never be able to solve the problem. Staying on the same example, do not convince yourself anything other than the facts related to your weight. Do not convince yourself that you have thick bones, it runs in the family. Acknowledge that you have emotional eating, it’s okay if you are eating to relieve the stress during these tough times.
- Decide specifically what should happen for you to decide that you solved the problem. For example when you reduce X kg and maintain them for a specific period of time.
- Make a list of unlimited solutions to this problem, don’t yet judge if the solutions are good or bad. Solutions can include diet, exercising, running, intermittent fasting, cutting sugar, seeking professional help like dietician or psychotherapist and many more solutions.
- Now judge the different solutions and decide which solution(s) are best for starting to solve this problem. Here you might decide on one or more solution(s) for example seeing both a psychotherapist and a dietician, this will help reduce any emotional eating, while having the dietician follow up with the proper food intake.
- Talk to yourself and decide if you are willing to start working on this solution. Before taking any steps towards fixing the problem, you need to decide with yourself if you are really ready to start working on the solutions. I know a lot about myself, sometimes I know the solution to a problem, but I am not willing to solve it. That’s when I decided that in life, I have a lot of solutions, but I am not always ready to solve my problems.
- Start taking baby steps towards solving this problem
Click Download below to download the related pdf printable for this exercise.
We are here for one another, join us on Monday, September 14 at 8am Beirut time for “Grab Your Morning Coffee with Chantal” so we can discuss how nagging felt this week and how this challenge has been for us. We will also talk about next week’s challenge and set the proper intentions for the week.
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I know I am!